He opens the door for you as you you casually get out of the car with a smile stretching from ear to ear. You anxiously walk to the front of your house as romantic glances and smirks are exchanged. The warm, night air wraps the two of you together as a fantastic time of small talk, laughs, and feelings comes to an end. The jingling from getting the keys out of your purse is the last sound you hear before everything goes silent. You look into your dates’ eyes, and the moment has finally come.
As he places his hand smoothly on the small of your back, you close your eyes and your lips softly touch. You break away from the kiss, and suddenly that cloud you were floating on pops and you are grounded back on earth. The attraction that has been building up throughout the date has now been shut down quicker than it was sparked. You finish with an awkward goodbye, but there is no chance of redemption after a bad, first kiss.
A perfect date with instant chemistry can be destroyed in the matter of seconds by a horrible kiss. I have seen in it magazines, books, movies and even from friends that they will not see a person again if they don’t feel the spark with that first, warm embrace. Why is the fate of a relationship sealed in the tiniest interaction of a date?
Even though we see ourselves as the most evolved species on the planet, our true animal instincts lie in the core of our human interactions. We may like to think that we are not shallow, but the first reason why we become interested in someone is based on physical attraction. When we meet someone for the first time, we see them before anything else happens. Our eyes process them so quickly that we already decide if this person is attractive before they even talk. This animal instinct may be the reason why our first true physical interaction such as a kiss can make or break our feelings toward someone.
If this is the case, then why is it that I can’t remember my first kiss. I have a really good memory too, but I can’t recall the first girl I locked lips with. I can’t remember if it was bad or good or just awkward. Now that I think about it, I can barely remember half of the first kisses I’ve had with other girls. Does this mean I’m the missing link or lost a gene from the evolution pool?
I do think physical attraction and interaction with a partner is really important. It plays a big role in our relationships. But the things I remember most don’t revolve around only the first kiss, it’s more about the first time we shared our feelings together. It’s how I learn something new about you and it makes me fall in love with you even more. The moment when we experienced something for the first time together and we became even closer. In the end, we will all remember our first kiss and how beautiful that other person was in that moment. But what will last the test of time isn’t physical interaction or beauty, it will be the ability to share our feelings and always being able to open up to each other.