How many times have you found yourself just observing in a particular situation than actually doing something? I can recall a countless number of times at the beginning of a party or meeting a new person where I would just watch everything going on around me. It wasn’t like I was going to be anti-social, whip out my Gameboy, and play Pokemon all night. I just feel more comfortable after I have a vibe for everything. Maybe it’s just me, but I think it’s an animalistic trait we have.
I noticed the other day something strange about my cat. Whenever she gets ready to rest, she needs to scope out every single part of the room. She sniffs every scent and even takes five minutes to kneed her kitty bed to ensure maximum safety. Watching this, I realized that I do the same thing. I don’t go around and sniff every person at the party or get my kitty bed prepared, but I like to walk around and see what’s going on. Whenever you go to a bar or party, you don’t stand in one spot the whole time. By the end of the night, you probably do laps around the place like its a workout. Not only does this hep me see how the night will play out, but I pick up on certain people and how they act.
When you first meet someone, they are just as nervous as you. They aren’t going to show their true colors to you right away. But you can see how they really are when you watching them and they aren’t paying attention. That may come off a bit weird, but I can guarantee everyone has people watched at the mall once or twice. Just by seeing how they interact with others can tell a lot about their character and how they want to be approached. It’s better to get a feel of how a person is then to go in right off the bat and act like you are long-lost best friends.
Some people might not agree with me. We all know that person who is a social butterfly and becomes the center of attention without even an introduction. Most of us aren’t like that and need to be slowly immersed in a situation instead of million things being thrown in our direction. I am not saying be the creepy kid hiding behind a plant or leaning against the wall having a party for one . I am just saying take a second to breath and really see what is happening around you. I bet you will be amazed to see all the things that many people have left unnoticed.